Let's talk about power.
This article in GoodTherapy discusses the importance of owning the power inherent in our roles as helping professionals and recognizing that a power differential exists with our clients.
I used to picture working with clients as a partnership, side by side, but that doesn't quite mesh with the need to maintain the power differential to help clients feel safe. I have a very different experience when discussing a problem with a friend vs. a therapist, and I certainly identify with the safety that can be created when someone is fully in their up-power. I appreciate being guided by someone has the training and experience to lead me down a path of healing.
Today, as a financial trauma coach and accountant, I recognize, embrace, and truly appreciate the need for a power differential. And, in the interest of moderation, I work hard to create balance in that differential: I do not need to be the scary authority figure who has all the answers and tells clients exactly what they need to do (thank you, ACA, for teaching me that!). Nor do I need to sink into people pleasing and let (or even inadvertently force) the client to run the show. The former can push clients into shut-down; the latter can push clients into fight/flight. Both lack the container necessary for the client to move toward transformation. As someone recovering from a dysfunctional upbringing, and also committed to helping others, finding this balance is where my own work lies.
I don't have to have all -- or even any -- of the answers. I do know, however, that the greatest transformations come when embracing my up-power allows me to create a safe space for clients to realize the things they knew all along.
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